You've always felt different in hard-to-name ways. Other people seem to have natural access to something you don’t. At times, you're proud of what sets you apart. Other times it feels like a curse. You long to be fully and deeply known, but you also are afraid that once someone sees all of you, you still won’t be enough. You worry about how much of you is the right amount. It can feel like you’re constantly placing and replacing parts of yourself on a scale and asking: how about now?

This guide helps you recognize when you use your emotions to distance yourself from connection and how to use your depth to bring people closer instead of holding them at arm's length.